Reading up on mental-health
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- Rogue Pilots Are a Growing Safety Threat—and No One Knows How to Stop Them - WSJ
Rogue pilot intentional crashes, highlighted by a FlyDubai security incident, have caused at least 800 deaths since 2005 and remain a growing aviation safety challenge.
- The Luddite Influencer
August Lamm urges readers to abandon smartphone use in order to regain control and meaning in their daily lives today.
- For Years, Presley Gerber Documented His Own Struggles, in His Own Words
Presley Gerber, son of model Cindy Crawford, left a collection of personal writings detailing his prolonged battle with substance abuse, recovery attempts, and mental‑health challenges.
- Software developers are not okay
Software developers face burnout and declining satisfaction due to AI-driven job changes, executive cost-cutting incentives, and eroded novelty, prompting many to quit tech.
- This is a letter for you, Dad
The author pens a heartfelt letter to his late father, lamenting missed time, reflecting on familial depression, and vowing to mirror his father's love and generosity for his own daughter.
- When Normal Becomes the Extreme
The article argues that modern society normalizes harmful patterns, making the Buddhist Middle Way insufficient unless we recognize systemic craving and attachment behind both extremes.
- Everybody’s home. No one’s coming over
The article observes that although everyone is staying at home, social visits have vanished, highlighting a growing sense of isolation despite increased domestic presence.
- A four-year reflection on not being retired - BonnyCode
After leaving Snap to teach at Cal Poly, the author found the role lacked expected prestige and casual chats, yet gained fulfillment from student connections and everyday life.
- the senior engineer death spiral
Engineers who overcompensate in new senior roles by disappearing and overworking fall into a burnout spiral that damages performance, relationships, and career progress.
- Woman Fatally Shot by Police in Times Square: ‘I’m Tired of This World’
Police in Times Square fatally shot Pamela Cisneros after she confronted officers with two knives, despite body camera showing attempts to de‑escalate.
- There's no point at which turning your brain off will work
The author argues that mental rest alone cannot solve deep work challenges; sustained engagement and deliberate practice are necessary for meaningful progress.
- Show HN: Koi.rest – watch some fish and regain your balance
Koi.rest offers a simple web page featuring looping fish videos designed to help users relax and regain mental balance.
- I am often wrong
In this personal reflection posted to Hacker News, the author candidly admits to frequently being incorrect in their judgments and decisions.
- The darker side of being a doctor
A surgeon describes how loss of control, support, and meaning in modern hospital work drives burnout and suicidal thoughts among doctors.
- One hundred days of fatherhood
After 100 days of fatherhood, the author finds that caring for his newborn has amplified his ambition, presence, and happiness while reshaping his view of achievement.
- ‘When I Miss My Walk, My Body and Mind Feel Clogged Up’
At 90, artist Lee Ufan explains that skipping his daily walk leaves his body and mind feeling clogged, underscoring the walk’s vital role in his well‑being.
- Every Marriage Needs Annoying Habits
The article argues that tolerating minor annoyances, like a spouse constantly moving furniture, is overall essential for a healthy marriage.
- The life you want is on the other side of negative emotions.
Avoiding negative emotions stalls growth; embracing them reveals the life you desire by breaking the self‑improvement loop that merely deflects feeling.
- When did we stop looking up?
Looking at the night sky for a few minutes shrinks worries, broadens perspective, cultivates humility, and deepens spiritual awe by reminding us of our place in the vast cosmos.
- How to Unclench
Jonny Miller explains that chronic muscular clenching limits emotional experience and decision‑making, and offers practical loops to train the skill of unclenching.
- Why you don't really want to change - by Hyde - BreatheLess
People cannot truly change their emotions or behavior because unconscious patterns drive them, so avoiding external triggers only relocates the same inner struggles.
- De-Brainrot Vacations
The article argues that taking vacations focused on intentional learning or low‑stakes creative projects prevents mental fatigue and restores cognitive vitality better than passive idling.
- Bird Haiku Poems Inspired by Nature 5 7 5 – ALONG THE BARREN ROAD
The page presents a collection of 5-7-5 haiku poems about various bird species, each accompanied by fun facts and reflections by poet Justin Farley.
- Trading Keggers for ‘Wellness Darties’
College students are swapping night‑time keg parties for daytime wellness gatherings featuring yoga, saunas and cold plunges to seek balance and health.
- How to Stop Wasting Your Life - by Dr. Dominic Ng
The article explains how dopamine’s response to uncertain rewards fuels compulsive phone checking and provides a practical protocol to reclaim attention and break the habit.
- De-Brainrot Vacations
The article explores how taking purposeful vacations can alleviate mental fatigue and 'brainrot' caused by incessant digital consumption and information overload.
- Sept. 11 and the Persistence of Memory
Twenty-five years after 9/11, survivors and witnesses continue to be haunted by fragmented recollections and vivid images of the attacks and their aftermath.
- bookofjoe: BeyondTheMedspeak: Prescription Creep
The piece shows how fragmented mental‑health care has led a friend to accumulate five anxiety medications, illustrating the trap of prescription creep.
- She Kept the Secret. She Just Didn't Keep It Alone.
The piece argues that when a mother discloses a paternity secret to her child, it constitutes emotional parentification that harms the child's psychological well‑being.
- Anticipated Difficulty Bias, and Why Experience Doesn’t Fix It
The article explains anticipated difficulty bias, where people consistently overestimate how hard emotionally significant tasks will be, and why past experience fails to reduce this misprediction.
- Harlan Coben Wants You to Write a Novel. He’ll Tell You How.
Harlan Coben’s new writing guide, part memoir, reveals his own self‑doubt struggles and offers practical advice for aspiring thriller writers to overcome it.
- Better living through respecting chemistry
Effective self‑driven work needs both productivity tricks and attention to bodily chemistry—medication, isolation, chemicals, and energy—to sustain intrinsic motivation and avoid burnout.
- Custom Soundscapes for Focus, Relaxation & Sleep
myNoise offers customizable soundscapes that mask distractions and aid focus, relaxation, sleep, tinnitus relief, and other wellbeing needs for users seeking daily auditory support.
- Is Magnesium the New Melatonin?
Experts say magnesium shows promise for improving sleep, but evidence is limited and not yet strong enough to replace melatonin as a go-to supplement.
- What will you do after tech?
Commenters share diverse post‑tech plans ranging from retirement hobbies and teaching to environmental work and career shifts, reflecting burnout and desire for meaningful activity.
- Backsliding, by Meghan O’Gieblyn
The essay explores how willpower often fails to overcome deep-seated habits, arguing that cultivating attention—rather than force of will—offers a path to genuine change and inner freedom.
- Never Be Angry at Work
The piece argues that suppressing anger at work harms productivity and suggests mindfulness and constructive communication as healthier alternatives for employees.
- I just needed a thing that listens — ivanlugo.dev
The author argues that feeling heard—whether by a supportive colleague or an LLM—is the essential ingredient for meaningful, effective work and personal fulfillment.
- I turned my Mac into a "dumb" computer – Javaman
By configuring Cold Turkey Blocker, Safari, and a restricted iPhone, the author creates a distraction‑free 'dumb' Mac to regain control over addictive online habits.
- Ask HN: Does anyone else feel like nothing matters anymore?
This Hacker News Ask post questions whether readers share a pervasive sense that nothing matters anymore, voicing existential uncertainty without presenting data, arguments, or conclusions about the feeling's validity or causes.
- Why do I work?
The author reflects on his career journey, realizing that work and life are intertwined and that meaning emerges from accepting reality rather than pursuing idealized dreams.
- A Simple, One-Word Trick to Turn Everyday Life Into Grand Fantasy
The article argues that applying the single word 'lore' to daily experiences reframes reality as personal mythology, blending fact and imagination.
- Bradley Cadenhead: The Boy Who Became 764
The article details how bullied Texas teen Bradley Cadenhead created the extremist Discord network 764, coercing minors into self‑harm and CSAM, leading to an 80‑year sentence.
- My Husband Has Alzheimer’s. Can I Date Other People?
She wonders whether she can pursue a romantic relationship while managing her husband’s Alzheimer’s care, raising a child alone, and supporting the family financially.
- What if Maintainer Burnout Isn't Burnout
The article argues that maintainer distress stems from loss of meaning (languishing) due to administrative sediment and AI-generated PRs, not just burnout.
- Trekking Gear for an Urban Explorer Who Doesn’t Overthink His Look
A Copenhagen psychiatrist prefers buying shirts secondhand so he can see how they look after wear, valuing the lived‑in appearance for his urban explorer style.
- Hayden Panettiere, Star of ‘Nashville’ and ‘Heroes,’ Dies at 36
Hayden Panettiere, known for Nashville and Heroes, has died at age 36 after a decade marked by depression, substance abuse, custody loss, and rehab stays.
- The human is the loop
The author reflects on a break from AI, realizing their usage had become an unhealthy habit that fostered dependency, reduced curiosity, and replaced meaningful work with endless, half-finished automation attempts.
- To Improve Student Mental Health, University of Michigan Eases Grading
University of Michigan will make first-semester grades pass or fail to reduce student anxiety and encourage academic exploration.
- A Self-Help Influencer With Troubles of Her Own
While Nicole LePera has amassed a large following as a self-help influencer offering advice on emotional well-being and relationships, her personal life reveals a complex and troubled history.
- Dataset: Dead mental health startups, 2000-2026, coded on 18 fields
A dataset tracks 18 fields for failed mental health startups from 2000 to 2026, offering insights into why such ventures did not survive.
- No More Sex, Flirting, Scrolling or Swiping
The author describes a personal retreat from social and digital intimacy, seeking solitude and self-protection by rejecting sex, flirting, scrolling, and swiping.
- Lessons on the Way to 100
The article invites people aiming for 100+ years to share their longevity goals and inspirations from those who have reached such ages.
- Don't Take the Black Pill [video]
The video warns that adopting the black‑pill mindset of inevitable defeat undermines motivation, urging viewers to reject fatalism and pursue constructive action.
- It's getting harder to focus every day
The article argues that modern digital environments and constant notifications are making sustained concentration increasingly difficult for individuals, urging readers to reclaim focus.
- Reliving Their Gym Class Nightmares, One Sprint at a Time
Hundreds of young adults gathered in Central Park to redo a dreaded childhood fitness test, confronting their gym‑class anxieties together.
- 9 Things Experts Wish You’d Do in Midlife to Increase Longevity
Experts recommend nine midlife habits—regular exercise, balanced diet, adequate sleep, social engagement, stress reduction, preventive screenings, strength training, mental stimulation, and avoiding harmful substances—to significantly boost lifespan.
- The Real Reason I Was Looksmaxxing in Midlife
Realizing they'd surpassed their mother's age at death, the author engaged in looksmaxxing to alleviate distress from visible aging like gray hair and wrinkles.
- The Breakup Loop: Why the TikTok Algorithm May Keep You Heartbroken
Mental health experts warn that TikTok's algorithm floods users with breakup content, illustrating platforms' failure to protect against addictive design.
- My Relationship With My Brother Was Fraught. Could Sibling Therapy Help Us?
The author explores whether sibling therapy could mend their strained brother relationship, expressing both interest and concern that it might exacerbate tensions.
- Opinion | Help! I Might Be a Tradwife!
The author admits she isn’t typical readers of frontier‑chore advice, yet discovers that performing domestic chores and child‑rearing routines steadies her mind.
- To Confront My Fear of Heights, I Crossed a Chasm on a Cable
A nervous hiker tackles a via ferrata route on Adirondack cliffs, describing the experience on ledges, rungs, and exposed bridges while confronting his fear of heights.
- Modern decor may be straining people's brains
Modern interior design trends, characterized by minimalism and overstimulation, may be causing cognitive strain for people spending extended time in such spaces.
- To Get More From Your Run, Try This Training Strategy
Running without a watch improves performance by tuning into bodily cues and reducing reliance on external metrics, fostering a more intuitive, enjoyable training experience.
- The Electric Pain in Her Tooth Baffled Every Dentist. What Was Wrong?
A 69-year-old woman's agonizing facial tooth pain, misdiagnosed by multiple dentists, was ultimately caused by trigeminal neuralgia from a compressing artery.
- When Lifelong Runners Are Forced to Quit
Lifelong runners forced to quit due to injury or age experience grief as they lose their identity and community tied to the sport.
- For Many Americans, Depression Is Familiar. Here’s What We Know.
More than one in four U.S. adults report a depression diagnosis, highlighted by Representative Thomas Kean Jr.'s hospitalization for depression.
- She Loved Fighting Wildfires. Then One Trapped Her.
Two female firefighters died in a Colorado forest fire, including Emily Barker, who had loved the work since childhood.
- I Thought Divorce Meant Walking Away From the Past
In a personal essay, the author discovers that divorce does not mean abandoning the good memories of marriage and is thankful for their persistence.
- Opinion | We Liked Remote Work. Then We Looked at the Data.
Remote work explains a third of the decline in Americans' mental health over 15 years, deepening isolation and distress.
- The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You
The US relies on unpaid family caregivers, with millions of adult children caring for parents who abused them, highlighting a painful emotional burden.
- Are You ‘Triggered’ or Just Upset?
The term 'triggered' is frequently misused, and experts argue this misuse can cause more harm than good.
- Summer Challenge: Put Your Phone Away for Better Sleep - The New York Times
Putting your phone away for a few minutes before bed can significantly improve sleep quality, according to a New York Times summer challenge.
- How Three Chess Friends Battled Demons and Saved Two Lives
Three chess friends — a homeless hustler, a scholar, and a recluse — helped each other overcome personal demons and saved two lives in a Central Park apartment.
- Summer Challenge: Get Outdoors and ‘Touch Grass’ - The New York Times
Time spent outdoors, especially in nature without digital devices, measurably improves mental restoration and well-being compared to phone use alone.
- What I Learned About Loss While Skateboarding at Costco
The author uses skateboarding at Costco to explore lessons about mortality and finding joy in the present moment.
Takes
This is what it took Hundreds of hours, no pay My only purpose in life for 10 years - get rich I spent my 26th birthday alone drunk and passed out on my desk live on Twitch If I could tell my younger self one thing Net worth won't fix your self-worth But he wouldn't listen
@rchase
he’s wired in
@alexandr_wang
I’m gonna give you some advice that’s a work in progress for me… If I aspire to marriage, I should study divorce. Munger says, “Invert always invert.” I’ve spent a lot of time reading books on divorce, talking to divorced people 40+, and closely examining people in my family who have chosen to get divorced. My working theory is that you can decrease likelihood of getting divorced by (1) aggressively investing in your personal development/caring for your own needs while single and (2) casting a wide net in dating then being very selective about who you choose - matching their values to yours. I aspire to staying single more than I aspire to getting married that leads to divorce. So the longer I stay patient, examine my past, evaluate all options - the better decision I’ll make!
@brookeleblanc
If you wake up to go pee in the middle of the night, you need to read this:
@CoachDanGo
what the fuuuuck
@steveruizok
The lonely job
@tobi
One of the greatest viruses of the modern man is looking at Instagram Stories. You will melt your brain looking at a barrage of outcomes—like vacations, parties, cars—with no visibility of the process that got them there.
@nikitabier
It really isn't. Embrace Peterson's simple advice: Clean your room. Then clean your computer. Don't succumb to sloppy thinking, sloppy living, or sloppy computers. (It's also just gross, and disgust is an important human instinct).
@dhh
Life is pretty tough out here
@AkioNuernberger
if you ever have ai impostor syndrome looking at things i do -- don't. i spend 101% of my day with AI and I still look around and feel so behind, so many things to try, tactics i haven't mastered yet, swarms i'm not swarming, etc etc don't feel bad - the frontier moves fast 🙃
@clairevo
If someone tries to HUMILIATE you in front of others Respond with these 6 things, they'll instantly regret it: 1. Yawn slowly.
@philosophysage
had an engineer quit today and there was nothing I could say to keep him. 2 years with us. Loved the team, learned a shit ton, no problem with the work itself. He was just straight burnt out working remote every day and it was starting to affect his mental health. I've been remote for 15 years straight. Probably have some version of the same damage and can't see it anymore. Still think it's worth it.
@iamAlexTurnbull
Tobi and I had an argument: - He claims LLMs advantage people with ADHD, who start many things, LLMs work, people hop between them - I claim they advantage super-disciplined folks, LLMs are tremendous entropy-generators, controlling which is the name of the game Who is right?
@MParakhin
I’m genuinely shaking right now
@_adishj
Do yourself a favor and watch this. Then go delete all your memory and skill files.
@hot_town
never be alone again
@jack
I thought it was another game one shotted by Fable, my brain is fried 💀
@linuz90
I don’t keep a calendar because that would imply accountability to other people. Instead, I externalize all inconvenience onto the people closest to me. It’s called freedom.
@robwalling
Great reminder to stay frosty
@garrytan
People are actually ending up in the hospital with stress from trying to escape the permanent underclass
@levelsio
i keep a running doc called “things i’m not doing anymore” and look at it monthly really simple way to live a happier & more productive life
@gregisenberg
I still think about this a lot
@rchase
One of the best quality of life improvements is the simplest of all: Like more things.
@jasonfried
An important read on life and enjoying every day.
@BillAckman